Despite October being known for Halloween, it is also Depression Awareness and National Bullying Prevention month. As you reflect on this month and consider the next to come, keep these things in mind.
Bullying is defined as repeated, unwanted, aggressive behavior that involves a real or perceived power imbalance between the bully and the victim, and is intended to harm, intimidate, or humiliate the victim. Depression is defined as a common and serious mental disorder that negatively affects how you feel, think, act, and perceive the world.
A study from Sabino Recovery shows that “the risk of depression in bullied individuals was 2.77 times higher than that of non-bullied individuals. Similarly, the risk of depression in individuals who bullied and [watched bullying occur] was 1.73 times higher than that in non-bullying individuals.” As the risk of depression increases, the causes and effects of it do too. People diagnosed with depression will likely experience sadness, loneliness, self-harm behaviors like purposely cutting or burning oneself, suicidal thoughts, changes in sleep and/or appetite, little to no motivation for activities, as well as many other things.
Nowadays, bullying is more subtle than the stereotypical lunch money stealing that is seen in the media. It is often looking at a friend and laughing when someone that’s not considered “popular” talks in class, or saying hi to an “unpopular” person as a joke. These kinds of things typically go unnoticed by teachers and other supervisors, making them very easy to get away with.
While depression is a potential symptom of bullying, it can be caused by many other things. For example, other social problems like friend or relationship troubles, family dynamics, stress, addiction and grief are just a few more catalysts of depression; however, it can be triggered by almost anything. Spotting someone who is experiencing depression can be tricky, as they often tend to hide it from others. Some signs of depression include changes in sleep and appetite, alcohol or drug use, negative self-talk, fatigue, pessimism, loss of concentration, disinterest in hobbies, personality changes and forced happiness. If you are concerned about someone you think is experiencing depression, look for these signs in their behavior. It is important to fully understand depression and everything about it to avoid making judgments about anyone going through it.
People who go through depression often don’t see a way out of it and believe there is no end in sight. This is when they are at the most risk of self-harm and suicide. Self-harm is often seen as an attention seeking behavior; but in reality, it is just a desperate attempt to cope. It is an attempt to feel something, because depression makes everything numb. Some signs indicating that someone is self-harming could include fresh cuts, bruises or burns without explanation, bandages on arms or legs, wearing long sleeves even in hot temperatures, unexplained scars, hiding sharp objects or asking for bandages. It is incredibly important not to judge or make fun of someone who self-harms.
People who experience depression and the things that come with it are not less of a person than someone who doesn’t; they are simply trying to live despite their mind telling them that nothing is worth it. If you or someone you know is experiencing any of these things, reach out to someone. It could be a parent, friend, teacher, counselor, family member, or other trusted adult. If someone reaches out to you about this, get them help. There is a possibility they will be upset, but their well being is worth more. The National Suicide and Crisis lifeline is available 24/7 to call or text at 988 to have a confidential conversation with a mental health professional without judgement. The CC guidance office can also offer a range of support to anyone going through a tough time or needing help. Be a part of the change. End the stigma around mental health and bullying. Treat everyone around you with kindness.
